It is impossible to go through life without experiencing big or small shocks; essentially, every one of us will wake up feeling like total bust failures in all sizes and shapes - for losing a tennis game, to pass for some promotion, to lose someone important in their life. And the truth is that the ability to eliminate emotional storms is not evenly obtained. Some of us choose ourselves, stumble ourselves, and, yes, it is better to start again.
Although we can think of recovering from failure as an innate character, how well (or badly) you are able to manage negative emotions coming with loss of all faith. Some of these behaviours are treated but some have to do with personality. Psychological knowledge, which distinguishes between those people whose attention is taken care of and those who are inspired by remorse to a great extent.
Here are four things that you experience and learn from experience, all of which have been cured by science. Remember: This is about managing your negative emotions, so the popular knowledge of pasting a smiley faces everywhere and to tell yourself that "who kills you, makes you stronger":
It does not mean that it should live again because there is nothing to do while loop in your head, but you have to stay in place. Bottom-line? The more difficulty you manage the negative emotions, the more likely you are to be able to see everything again and look at every detail. It also does not mean that you have not failed or are not spinning positive thinking.
Keeping the situation in mind while keeping away from the situation and focusing on what you felt, you have to manage the emotions that help in understanding your responses. Try to think about the situation as if it happened to someone else, to make sure you did not come back in the heat of the moment.
It turns out that what happened to you because of your failure, will not only help you to feel better about what happened to you but whatever you contributed to the end result will allow you to solve. Did you have such details or signs that you had remembered that you were thinking that you were on the right track when you were not? Are you focusing very well on positive signs? Your boss is the good thing to tell you, temporary instability in you and your partner's debate - that you remember your work ethic or the importance of criticism about your partner Successful to withdraw or to remove yourself from you? A problem with focus - whether inspired by attitude or avoidance - in a situation that can remind us, very clear signs. The big issue is that a narrow focus cannot always be a good thing - keeping your eye on the failures too. Keep in mind that, the humans are mostly optimistic and content to pay more attention to the victory - in addition to things which are correct in comparison to loss or omissions.
Sometimes, we fail because we do not have the skills to meet the goal, and we fail to recognize it. A second time, because considering it is very terrible to fail and culture tells us that "never win the dispute", we put our confidence in patience and perseverance because we do not see any alternative.
Find out your "flow". Fail to spend time and experience how you really cheer yourself up, do something that completely engages you at every level, which puts you in the flow, do something that is your participation, satisfaction and happiness. Enlarges the feelings of the activity is something that pleases you, not everyone knows you well. Not that will not please your parents who will please your spouse, boyfriend or partner, who makes your children happy it should be for you to call it a suicide, selfish, or call to be different from the world not there. It is only a reminder that, after a big failure, you need to be in touch with yourself again.
In the end, failure is not an essential step on the path to success. This is a popular and soothing idea - but this is not true. What you can do about yourself in the wake of failure is definitely a step in the right direction. It also helps in understanding the failure you have contributed to.